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How immersion in dreams destroys your motivation and how to stop it


Ah, a dream, a dream, You are so beautiful!
Why do we need a dream?
Why do we like to dream so much?
What are we doing to achieve our DREAMS ?! Dreaming is not harmful, it is harmful not to dream!
Dreaming or not dreaming - that’s the question?

About two weeks, or maybe more, I am conducting an informal survey among people I know, with whom I work or just the first people I meet. The purpose of this survey is to find out: “What do people who live next to us dream about at the same time in this Universe?”

I often wondered before what people strive for, why and what they are doing to achieve this, but now I decided to write everything down and tell you and, based on the results, even bring out the TOP “most-most” dreams, for example, the most unusual, most real or another.

I work in an international advertising agency, in the BTL department. Oh, I didn’t think it sounds so cool. But actually it’s not as cool as it sounds. In this section, many managers: account-, office-, regional-, HR-manager remind me more of some kind of “work zombies”. Oooo, presentations, briefs, castes, calls, recruitment, castings, reports, reports, after all. They sit at their desks with computers with empty faces, smiling once a week, as if out of habit.

Time to dream

They, of course, are not all so dedicated to their office work, but very many. I don’t know how it is with the creative department, but here it’s a complete failure. And it became interesting to me: “What are these people dreaming of?” Probably they have some treasured, beautiful dreams filled with paints, it somehow pleased me. Solving some questions with the account director, I asked: “Vova, what is your dream?” He met the question with surprise, obviously did not expect this from me.

Some kind of nervous laugh and ... "Yes, I didn’t have any dream so cherished ..." What did you dream of, just graduate and work somewhere? "" Yes, probably something like that. " Perhaps, of course, he does not have the credibility to tell me his cherished dreams, but I really hoped that the employees of the advertising agency could come up with something more interesting.

For you, my readers, I want this to serve as food for the brain, for you to strive for something specific, or else you will spend your working days like groundhog day: every day is the same thing.

For some reason, I’m sure that everyone has been familiar with the topic of the materialization of our thoughts for a long time, they have read, talked about, or at least heard about it more than once. The rule is simple: when you want to get something, achieve something, for example, get a job as a copywriter, with the payment of your labor 3000 UAH. per month, YOU REPRESENT YOURSELF ALREADY AT THIS WORKPLACE, HOW YOU ARE PERFORMING YOUR WORK.

And it is SPECIFICALLY SPECIFIC ACTIONS: you write a slogan, a script, an advertising concept, and then you get money for it, you present them in your hands, you tell yourself what you feel at the same time, and clearly set the deadlines for what you will achieve, in what terms you will get what you want ... and you GET IT!


And most of all you should be interested in the RESULT, and do not even think about the process of achieving it, for you everything will turn out in the best way. That's all, concreteness and clarity are important here, as well as discipline, you need to devote time to such visualization - but this is such a fascinating and enjoyable task that does not require a special atmosphere. For example, you can do this while you are waiting for a minibus to the university or to work, in the transport, while you are getting somewhere, do not watch TV, but sit down with a cup of tea and visualize your dreams, approach them a few more steps.

BE CAREFUL - a dream has the property to come true!
The following answers I received were:
From the saleswoman in the stall “Dewdrop” - to become a millionaire and complete the house.
From a driving teacher, it’s not certain, but he feels pride when he helps people.
From a taxi driver - “... that Schaub normally goes to a normal robot. But it’s not otake who knows what. ”
From a marketer - “It’s not enough to work and get a lot of money for this, so that there is enough time to do what you love to do - interior design
From the godmother - “I will think about it, but now I can’t give you an answer.”

Remember how Yuri Antonov sang in his song: A dream comes true and does not come true?

What is your dream? Is there that dream for which the heart beats faster? Is life rich and interesting? If there is such a dream - great! Well, if not yet, then get it urgently. A true dream, pledge and motivator for success and prosperity.

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Why do we like to dream and make plans so much

Probably, every person sometimes likes to dream: imagine how some desires are fulfilled, think about vacation, mentally see his victory in the competition.

At this moment, you only represent the achievement, and do not actually commit it. Why, then, without having a real foundation, are thoughts of victories and rewards so pleasant and attractive? It's all about the neurotransmitter dopamine, which supports our motivation.

For a long time, dopamine has been associated with pleasure, but John Salamon’s long-term studies have shown that this hormone is responsible not so much for pleasure as for its expectation.

Motivation for action directly depends on the level of dopamine. For example, mice with low dopamine levels have always chosen a shorter path to prey, even if passing through some trials promised a much greater reward.

In people, the relationship between dopamine levels and the desire to do something is clearly visible in depression. Reduced dopamine does not allow people to anticipate the pleasure of future events, so they do not want anything.

Due to the low level of dopamine, people and animals lose their desire to do something for the reward, so dopamine is more responsible for motivating and analyzing prices and benefits than for pleasure in itself.

John Salamone, University of Connecticut Researcher

Pleasant images and dreams increase the production of dopamine, which brings pleasure from anticipation and pushes us to achieve what we want. Ideally, the scheme should be as follows: anticipation → execution → receipt.

But the habit of dreaming and building unrealizable plans excludes the last two points from this scheme. Execution and receipt are replaced by the constant scrolling in the head of pleasant thoughts about non-existent victories. As a result of this, it becomes enough that the release of dopamine is a pleasure.

Unfortunately, our body is set up in such a way that we cannot take long to enjoy the same thing and at the same time maintain the same intensity of sensations. Empty dreams, like any other pleasant actions, can develop into addiction.

How is dependency formed?

When an addicted person sees a stimulus associated with his addiction, dopamine levels rise in the striatum of the brain, which makes him buy drugs, eat a cake, smoke a cigarette.

However, constant stimulation of the dopamine-boosting system encourages the brain to adapt to elevated neurotransmitter levels.

In dependent people, the number of D2 dopamine receptors decreases and less dopamine is released in the striatum. Moreover, a decrease in the number of D2 receptors in the striatum of the brain is associated with a decrease in the activity of the orbitofrontal cortex, a region associated with motivation and compulsive behavior, as well as the cingulate gyrus responsible for behavioral control. This leads to a loss of control over their behavior, which is typical for addicted people.

Thus, the constant receipt of large doses of dopamine negatively affects your receptors and the functioning of the promotion system as a whole. Every day, artificially stimulating yourself with pleasant dreams, you undeservedly receive a large amount of dopamine, which negatively affects your ability to enjoy what is happening in reality.

How dream addiction keeps you from achieving goals

When you enjoy only a dream or a plan, you cease to feel the need to achieve. What is the point of achieving something if you have already received your reward?

The only thing you do is scroll through pleasant thoughts in your head and get your dose of dopamine.

This is harmful even in the concept of "thinking determines being." Indeed, for the hundredth time presenting some unrealistic scenarios and doing nothing to bring them to life, you are missing real opportunities that no longer seem so attractive.

How to get rid of addiction

To return the joy of reality and stop living in dreams and fantasies, you need to wean yourself from experiencing non-existent victories.

One of the good ways to learn to see the good in reality is meditation. It’s enough five minutes a day to sharpen your perception of reality and you begin to notice pleasant trifles that previously seemed commonplace.

In addition, meditation teaches you to leave the intricate labyrinths of your fantasies and concentrate on the present moment - on what is happening now in your head, in the body, around.

Leaving your fantasies, you will see that there is a lot of pleasant things in the world around, and having stopped mental stimulation, you will save your dopamine receptors and will be able to achieve much more in life.

1. You can understand what you want from life

The problem with finding yourself and your place in life is sometimes delayed indefinitely. To avoid such situations, try exercises. "Childhood" and “20 favorite activities” from the book “Dreaming is not harmful” by the life coach for achieving the goals of Barbara Cher and psychology expert Annie Gottlieb.

  • The first exercise will help you understand what you most often did in childhood. Write down on paper all the hobbies and activities that fascinated you, by years of life. After that, analyze what business accompanied you throughout the conscious path. This will be the very red thread that is worth considering.
  • Exercise “20 Favorite Activities” will help you analyze what you did, do, or why you stopped doing it. Write at least 20 favorite activities on a piece of paper, and if you don’t get such a quantity, do not despair and note any trifle: like scratching when itching, for example. After ask some related questions to these hobbies. When was the last time I did this? Is it worth the money or is it free? Alone or with someone? Planned or spontaneous? Is there a health risk? Is it something fast or slow? Now identify patterns. They will prompt your real interests and give you the correct vector in determining the work of your life.


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